Becoming a mother is
not easy at all. Motherhood as a phase of your life may just happen. But what
follows is a life-changing experience. No matter how much you learn from other
mothers, you’ll still find yourself unsure, insecure, frustrated,… But with
time you start cherishing this new phase of your life. Who takes you across
this storm? Your learning? Your family? Your friends? Or is it the tiny
unassuming bundle of joy snuggled in your arms?
Your kid may only be a
newborn; she may not know to talk; she may need immense care yet she always
manages to keep you sane by teaching you life lessons.
1. Can Will-you-ever-grow-up girls be
good mothers?
All your
life you are used to being taken care of. Your parents shower you with love.
Your teachers guide you. Your siblings protect you. Your friends love you. Your
husband supports you. Some women do start taking care of others earlier in
their lives. But a true sense of responsibility & complete accountability
comes only with motherhood. You are nervous all the time but you’ll also be amazed
at how much you’ve matured overnight (almost… J). And if you’re the
will-you-ever-grow-up sort, even better. Your kid will have a gala time!
2. Do you believe in MAGIC?
As every
day passes, you’ll feel the stress mounting. Taking care of a newborn can be
stressful for first-timers. Staying up all night; running out of ideas on how
to console the crying child; remembering vaccinations, feeding times, bathing
techniques,… And when she becomes a toddler, you have a new set of things to
worry about.
Then there
are times when you slip and then you feel miserable. You start thinking that
you’re a lousy mom. When your child starts becoming independent you feel insecure,
as if somebody is taking away a part of you. If you’re a working mother, you
feel endlessly guilty for not being with your loved one 24x7. When she gets
attached to the caretaker you feel scared that she might not be as attached to
you anymore. Fears, fears, innumerable fears!
But every
child reserves a very special place in her heart only for her mother. Do you
remember how she smiled at you for the first time? Do you remember how she
still clings to you when she’s afraid? Can anyone else console or comfort her
when she gets hurt? Doesn’t she demand exclusive attention once you get back
home after work? Doesn’t she choose you over everyone else? Doesn’t she get
possessive when someone says you’re not hers?
When you
notice these easy-to-miss details, a serene smile spreads across your face
& then all your fears vanish! That’s the magic of every child. She loves
you in her own little ways!
3. Childhood again?
While we
grow up, we so willingly let go of our childishness and with it a lot of
innocence. We become so serious that when you see a “childish” adult, all you
do is throw an exasperated look. Yet your child effortlessly awakens the child
in you. You rediscover that being a child is so much fun!
4. Pride is a sin? Then give me more!
If you
think you know pride, think again. You’ve never known this sort of pride
before. When your kid does something that people applaud and talk about, your
heart fills up with a feeling so warm that you wonder what it is. Now that’s
pride! It’s the same unadulterated pride that your parents felt on your every
achievement, big or small.
5. No Pain. No Gain.
Kids don’t
sit around wishing that the thing of their interest will come to them on their
own. They, fortunately, don’t know about the larger force that orchestrates everything.
They believe in reaching out, crying or even coveting. We try to curb this
behavior but we should remember to curb the action not the intention. In fact,
this is something we should learn from them. If you want it, go get it.
6. Who said life is complicated?
Life is not
complicated, we make it complicated. Ask your toddler. She’ll immediately
agree. There is a simple solution to every so-called complex problem. There is
abundant joy in tiny things. You can find boundless peace when you let go. We
can brush it off by saying a kid’s life is simple because they have nothing to
worry about. Very untrue. They have their share of troubles, worries and fears.
Yet they choose to focus on the brighter side of life & have fun (ALL THE
TIME).
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